A gentle guide for survivors rebuilding their sense of self in God’s love.
Becoming HER: Beauty From Ashes
If your story holds pain that was never your fault, this book was written to sit beside you in the dark, remind you whose you are, and gently walk you toward wholeness—one brave page at a time.
For every page you turn, may you feel less alone and more deeply held by a God who still calls you beloved.
Hardcover • 180 pages • Guided reflections & prayers
Featuring soft floral details and butterflies that whisper: what tried to break you will not have the final word.
You are not the sum of what was done to you.
Maybe you still freeze when a memory flashes. Maybe your body feels like a stranger. Maybe your faith is hanging by a thread because you can’t reconcile a good God with what you’ve lived through.
Becoming HER is a safe place to exhale—to be honest about the breaking, to ask the hard questions, and to slowly remember that God did not abandon you in the moment you were hurt. He gathers your ashes and turns them into beauty, piece by piece.
You don’t have to rush your healing. You just have to refuse to believe that you are ruined. There is a "her" you are becoming—whole, grounded, loved—and this book will walk with you toward her.
About Becoming HER
Becoming HER is a faith-based, restorative guide for survivors of sexual assault who are ready to move from simply surviving to gently rebuilding. Written in short, tender chapters, it weaves together personal stories, Scripture, reflection prompts, and prayers you can actually pray—even on the days belief feels impossible.
Each section gently guides you through the real questions survivors carry: Where was God? Is my body still good? Can I trust myself again? Will this ever stop hurting? In the quiet pages, you’ll hear a different narrative than shame, fear, and blame—the voice of a God who draws near to the brokenhearted and calls you fully, irrevocably loved.
With rose-soft imagery and butterfly motifs throughout, the book embodies its core promise: beauty does not erase the ashes, but it does rise from them.
Structured as a journey, the book moves from Naming the Wound, to Holding the Questions, to Receiving God’s Care, to Becoming HER—yourself, again, without apology.
Format includes: reflection prompts, journaling space, guided prayers, and grounding truths you can return to on your hardest days.
Inside these pages, you will discover:
This is not a list of "shoulds"—it’s a slow, steady unfolding of truth, safety, and identity in Christ after trauma.
Healing with God
- How God responds to suffering and where He was when you were hurt.
- Why your trauma does not disqualify you from God’s presence or purpose.
- Gentle prayers for days when you have no words but still want to be held.
Reclaiming Your Body & Voice
- Why your body is still good, worthy, and yours.
- Tools to ground yourself when flashbacks and panic arise.
- Language to set boundaries without apologizing for your needs.
Becoming HER
- A vision of who you are beyond the trauma—rooted, radiant, and resilient.
- Practices to cultivate self-compassion instead of self-blame.
- Encouragement to dream again, make plans, and trust your own growth.
This book is for you if…
You’re a young woman—maybe 18, 19, 20, 21—or a survivor at any age, and you’re tired of feeling broken, dirty, or distant from the God you once trusted. You long for language for what happened, and companionship for the long road of healing.
- You’ve experienced sexual assault or abuse and feel alone in your story.
- You wrestle with faith and wonder how God sees you now.
- You feel triggered in your own body and want practical tools to feel safe again.
- You’re supporting a survivor and want to love them well.
- You’re ready to move beyond shame, but you don’t know where to start.
You don’t have to have it all together to open this book. You just have to be willing to tell the truth: "Something happened to me, and I deserve to heal."
Let Becoming HER be the friend who holds your hand, points you back to God, and reminds you—again and again—that you are not too much, too broken, or too late for healing.
Meet the Author
A survivor, a sister, and a woman held together by the grace of God.
As a survivor of sexual assault, the author of Becoming HER knows what it is to sit in church and feel unseen, to love God deeply and still wonder, "Why didn’t You stop it?" Her own journey through counseling, community, and the presence of God reshaped how she saw herself—not as damaged goods, but as a beloved daughter who had walked through fire and survived.
Out of that story came a calling: to create resources that speak gently, tell the truth about trauma, and hold space for hard questions without rushing anyone’s healing. Becoming HER is written the way she wished someone had written for her at 18—honest, kind, grounded in Scripture, and full of practical compassion.
Every chapter is infused with the heart of a big sister and the steady hope of a God who does not minimize your pain, but meets you right in the middle of it.
Whispers from other survivors
Names and details may be changed to honor privacy—but the relief and hope are very real.
“For the first time since my assault, I felt like someone understood the questions in my head and the heaviness in my chest. This book sat with me in the dark and still pointed me gently toward hope.”
— A., 19, survivor & college student
“As a mom and survivor in my 40s, I worried this would be too young for me. It wasn’t. The language is tender and timeless. I cried, I journaled, and I finally forgave myself for things that were never my fault.”
— S., 42, survivor & mother
“I lead a small group for survivors at my church, and we’re using Becoming HER as our guide. The mix of Scripture, honesty, and practical exercises has opened up the most healing conversations I’ve ever witnessed.”
— L., 28, small group leader
Ready to hold hope in your hands?
You are not too much. You are not too far gone. You are not defined by what they did. You are becoming—slowly, bravely, beautifully—the woman God has loved all along.
Let this book be one soft, steady step on your way home to yourself.
Trigger-awareness note: While honest about trauma, this book is written to be gentle and grounding. Take your time. Take breaks. Invite a trusted friend, mentor, or counselor into the journey with you.
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